NLP Webinar January 12-13, 2017

iNLP Student Only Webinar by Mike Bundrant

Finding the right obstacle to your goals.

Finding the right obstacles to goals, from an NLP perspective, is to address the question: What stops you? Outcome Specification module in iNLP practitioner training - module 9.

In NLP terms, the right obstacle will be sensory-based. In other words, understandable in visual, auditory and/or kinesthetic terms.

The NLP obstacles process looks like:

1. What's your goal?

2.What stops you from achieving this goal? (identify obstacle)

3. Detect VAK activity.

4. Use NLP interventions to work with VAK sensory-based representations of obstacles.

The obstacles to overcome are actually internal representations (VAK).

If the obstacles are presented at external obstacles, then we still move to detect the internal representations of the external obstacles.

Examples of Overcoming Obstacles initially presented as external obstacles

Obstacles - external to internal transformation example #1

Client says: My wife says no when I tell her I want to do x.

Wife represented as external obstacle

Response to initiate overcoming obstacle - begin the with the client's internal representation of external obstacle (VAK).

Ask: When you think of your wife, what do you see, hear or feel on the inside?

Get inner VAK representation - image, sound and accompanying feelings

Intervention possibilities:

Explore submodality shifts that may be empowering or resource-building

Consider using New Behavior Generator for rehearsing better communication patterns

Look for psychological attachments (AHA Solution) to be aware of and begin working on.

Rejection attachment: behaving or communicating in a way that invites rejection?

Control attachment: handing over too much power to wife - acting helpless?

Deprivation attachment: not really communicating what you need or giving up too soon?

Use perceptual positions to explore multiple angles on the relationship and to dissociate.

And so on - and on and on and on:) Tons of options for an NLP practitioner.

Transforming external obstacles into internal obstacles example #2

Client says: My life is too hectic to devote any time to (what I want).

Response to initiate overcoming obstacle - begin the with the client's internal representation of external obstacle (VAK).

Ask: When you think of your hectic life, what do you see, hear or feel on the inside?

Get specific image, sounds and accompanying feelings of hectic life.

Intervention possibilities:

Submodality shifts to clarify and shrink image to reduce overwhelm.

Chunk life down into 'areas of life' to reduce overwhelm

Explore life metaphor

Consider psychological attachments, like the Control attachment (life controls me)

Tame DMN protocol with problem (in circle) 'life is hectic'

And so on and on!

Other considerations

Ecology

Should the obstacle be overcome? Or is it a legitimate limitation that the client needs to accept?

What would happen if...

A client becomes more assertive, less helpless, more empowered in specific relationships?

A client does, in fact, reach the goal?

How might the resources accessed be misused or applied un-ecologically?

Etc...


Mike Bundrant

iNLP Center