Neuro-Linguistic Programming Training Noteshttp://nlptraining.postach.io/feed.xml2017-04-05T22:44:07.824000ZWerkzeugiNLP Center Training Notes for VAK and Rapport Webinarhttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/inlp-center-training-notes-for-vak-and-rapport-webinar2017-04-05T22:44:07.824000Z2017-04-05T20:01:40ZiNLP Center<div>Originally published at <a shape="rect" href="http://thenlpcourse.com" target="_blank">The NLP Course</a><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>NLP training notes for VAK and rapport workshop at <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org" target="_blank">iNLP Center</a>. This is an iNLP enrollee course to review the VAK model and NLP rapport building techniques.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">iNLP Center students enrolled in any iNLP Center NLP or coach training.</span><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Purpose of this Webinar</span><br clear="none"/></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">1. To support iNLP Center students so they feel good about training with iNLP.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">2. To answer questions about practitioner training modules 2-3, specifically. <br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">3. To provided added value with additional techniques like <a shape="rect" href="https://school.inlpcenter.org/nlp-vak-synergy-exercise/">VAK Synergy</a>.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">4. To provide <a shape="rect" href="http://thenlpcourse.com/category/cheats/">NLP practitioner cheats</a> to help students implement NLP tools.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">5. To have fun and build community.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">VAK and Coaching Webinar Agenda<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">1. Introduce NLP trainer and welcome students.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">2. Audio check-in with chat responses.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">3. Primer for taking questions.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">4. Q&A about modules 2-3.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">5. Presentation of VAK Synergy (link to iNLP Center school site article) and possible demonstration with a student.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">6. VAK coaching cheats.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">7. Close with a reminder to continue the conversation on Facebook.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Notes on VAK Coaching Cheats<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">As an NLP practitioner or coach, how do we initiate conversations with clients? When we want to explore the client's VAK, how do we begin? Below are some situations in which to utilize VAK as an NLP coach, with examples of how you could respond.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"></span><div><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;">1. When you want to use VAK for rapport-building, use the words from the same modality as the client.<br clear="none"/></span></strong></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">Examples: </span></div>
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<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;">Client: I just don't feel right about it. <br clear="none"/></span></em></div>
<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;">Coach: Yes, so it's important that we get in touch with what does feel right.<br clear="none"/></span></em></div>
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<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;">Client: She sounds like she doesn't like me very much.<br clear="none"/></span></em></div>
<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">Coach: What do you hear her say that makes you believe she doesn't like you?<br clear="none"/></span></span></em></div>
<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><br clear="none"/>Client: I'm not seeing any solutions.<br clear="none"/></span></span></span></em></div>
<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 14px;">Coach: You're not seeing solutions, so it's important to gain a perspective in which solutions show up.<br clear="none"/></span></span></span></span></em></div></div><div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;">2. When you notice a client's modality and they are talking about compatibility or communication issues with others. </span></strong></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"> Example:<em> I notice you tend to be a feeling-oriented person. How does (so-and-so) relate with feelings?</em></span></div>
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<div><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;">3. When you observe a stuck state related to any of the VAK modalities.<br clear="none"/></span></strong></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">Example:<em> I notice when you talk about your (stuck state) you are (having feelings, hearing something in your mind, seeing an image in your mind's eye). What is the (picture, sound or feeling) on the inside?</em><br clear="none"/></span></div>
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The NLP VAK Synergy Exercisehttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/the-nlp-vak-synergy-exercise2017-04-04T23:39:46.470000Z2017-04-04T16:43:27ZiNLP Center<div><div>Originally published at: <a shape="rect" href="https://school.inlpcenter.org/nlp-vak-synergy-exercise/">https://school.inlpcenter.org/nlp-vak-synergy-exercise/</a><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><strong>Note</strong>: <em>The <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org">iNLP Center</a> did not develop this method, although we named it VAK Synergy for our purposes here. It's a classic NLP and VAK modality exercise. I don't remember where I learned it but feel to credit Steve and Connirae Andreas as a good guess.</em><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>The VAK Synergy exercise helps you develop internal VAK flexibility. If one or more of the VAK modalities are challenging for you to access, this might be a worthwhile exercise: For example, if it's difficult for you to:<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>A common question <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org/available-nlp-programs/nlp-practitioner-certification-online/">NLP practitioners</a> ask has to do with developing VAK flexibility. How do we learn to use all the VAK modalities if one or more of them is challenging to access. For example, some NLP students find it difficult to visualize in their mind's eye. They don't see inner pictures. Others have a hard time remembering or imagining sounds. Still others are less aware of the feelings in their body.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>It's important to note that this is merely a matter of conscious awareness. <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org/what-is-neuro-linguistic-programming-nlp/">NLP</a> maintains that we all do all three of the VAK modalities naturally. So, if you're not aware of your feelings, you still are capable of feeling and do have emotions. The issue is that you are not consciously aware of them when they are happening. And the same principle applies to the visual and auditory modalities. It's all a matter of where we direct conscious attention. <br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>Over time, we develop habits and may not be used to accessing a full range of VAK experience. To become more VAK flexible, we need to develop the skill and practice patiently until we've expanded our consciousness enough to encompass all of the VAK experience we have.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 24px;">A VAK Enhancement Exercise</span><br clear="none"/></div>
<div>This is a mini-meditation that begins where you are most aware and leverages your natural abilities. The exercise is a simple formula involving an imaginary tree:) During the meditation, we'll experience three elements of the imaginary tree: visual, auditory and kinesthetic.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>Feeling of bark texture (smooth, rough), temperature of bark, texture of a leaf, temperature of a leaf, feeling of leaf squished in hand, feeling of breeze against skin, temperature of surround air, feeling of ground beneath feet, feelings or emotions about tree on the inside, etc...<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>Begin with the VAK element that's easiest for you to imagine, then move to the next easiest element and finish with the most difficult element to imagine. Then, repeat the cycle over and over. If visual is easy for you, begin there and move into auditory and kinesthetic. If auditory is easier for you, begin with that, then move to visual and kinesthetic. If kinesthetic is easier, start there and move to auditory, then visual. <br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>https://soundcloud.com/inlpcenter/vaksynergy-kinesthetic-start<br clear="none"/></div><br clear="none"/></div>i-Who Objectives: Health, Productivity and Leadershiphttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/i-who-objectives-health-productivity-and-leadership2017-04-04T23:43:59.540000Z2017-03-30T19:32:52ZiNLP Center<div><a shape="rect" href="http://www.i-who.org/" target="_blank">I-Who</a> is new domain affiliated with <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org" target="_blank">iNLP Center</a>. In the past, it's been used as an education portal associated with universities in the U.K.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>iNLP will use i-Who as an article directory of sorts, to share knowledge with people - beyond the scope of NLP or life coach training. The market for health, producitiity and leadership readers is significant and not all of them are interested in NLP training or to become a life coach. <br clear="none"/></div>
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<div>Articles can be written by <a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org/inlpcenter-team/">iNLP Center staff</a>, guest bloggers or hired freelancers. In the case of both guest bloggers and freelancers, iNLP staff will determine keywords and content direction. All content on i-Who will be original. On the matter of republishing content, this will not happend unless and until iNLP Center content advisory board reviews and approves the idea.<br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">For the time being, i-Who will not be monetized. When there is ample content on the site, as well as regular traffic, several monetization methods will be considered:<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• High quality affiliate products<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• iNLP Center products<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• i-Who branded products<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• Selling text links<br clear="none"/>• Blogroll links<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">Advertising will probably not be considered as a method of traffic generation. The goal is to slowly but surely increase the exposure of i-Who over time through organic methods. The content should be of such a calibre as to inspire sharing.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">All the usual tasks involved in setting up a new website: Site design and layout, content creation, logo design, site architecture, seo activities. These tasks will be low-priortity for iNLP staffers for now, to be done given the chance. There are no deadlines, editorial calendars and there will be no official launch. If and when the time comes to launch an i-Who branded product, an official launch calendar will be created, but no such initiative is currently in place. <br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">To reiterate, the purpose is brand expansion, sharing health, productivity and leadership information with audiences beyond the niche associated with iNLP Certification programs.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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On Writinghttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/on-writing2017-03-30T20:08:06.797000Z2017-03-09T00:24:06ZiNLP Center<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Set aside regular time for writing - sometimes inspired, sometimes not.</span><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">The outline should end in what the reader feels/does as a result of the piece.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Better writing activates multiple senses - VAK<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Use metaphors, analogies, frames of mind, to activate the senses. Use metaphors to create depth of understanding.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">Bleary-eyed and drunk, Dave was struggling to make it home. The road was a scene from a fun house in front of him. Turning to cross the train tracks, the fun house suddenly transformed into a house of terror. A train was plunging into Dave's passenger side.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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Unconscious Mind Research - The Unconscious Death Traphttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/unconscious-mind-research2017-02-09T03:34:28.424000Z2017-02-09T03:00:54ZiNLP Center<div><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Unconscious Mind Facts for <a shape="rect" href="http://basicneurosis.com">Basic Neurosis Podcast</a>.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Facts about your unconscious mind that combine make your life miserable.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Nearly 50 years of observing human nature have led me to one profound realization: Most of us have no clue why we do what we do.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">In a state of impressive ignorance, we go on feeling compulsively unhappy. If you're in this boat, then you'll probably identify with the following symptoms:<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">You cannot control your behaviors and are often compelled to act against your own best interest.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">You cannot control your thoughts - you may live under a barrage of self-criticism and negativity in your own head.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">You cannot control your feelings and experience fear, anger, jealousy, worry, apathy, discouragement, self-doubt and so forth....that <strong>actually prevents you from doing what you think you want to do.</strong><br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Why?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Why would anyone sabotage their life?<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Why would you ever do ANY of the following, especially when you honestly know better?<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">• Invite all the wrong people into your life - controlling people. Rejecting people. People who ignore your needs.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">• Stop doing what make you healthy and happy. Eating right. Exercising. Keeping up good habits. <br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">• Deprive yourself in a million ways. Doing for others who don't reciprocate. Not take care of your own needs.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"><br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">When you understand the unconscious mind, you can know why. And you can do something about it. if you dare. I say if you dare, because most people are terrified of mental health. They don't want to be healthy. It's a fear-inducing prospect. The power and freedom and responsibility of having excellent mental health is simply terrifying to many of us.<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Anyway, what combination of facts turns the unconscious mind against you?<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">These are scientific facts and I will put them together in such a way that will reveal the death trap of the unconscious mind. <br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"></span><span style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Unconscious Death Trap Fact #1: The unconscious mind </span><span style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Controls 95% of your Life</span></span><br clear="none"/></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Emotions - Preferences, Likes and Feelings and GOALS Can be 100% Unconscious</span></p><p><a shape="rect" href="http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.0963-7214.2004.00288.x" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.0963-7214.2004.00288.x</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">subliminally induced affective reactions still influence people's preference judgments and even the amount of beverage they consume - Decisions and Behaviors - 100% unconsciously determined.</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><a shape="rect" href="http://psycnet.apa.org/index.cfm?fa=buy.optionToBuy&uid=2000-16325-007" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;"><a shape="rect">http://psycnet.apa.org/index.cfm?fa=buy.optionToBuy&uid=2000-16325-007</a></span></a><br clear="none"/></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(17, 85, 204); font-weight: 400;"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Unconscious Death Trap Fact #2: </span></span>95% of Decisions are Made Unconsciously</span></p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;"></span><p><a shape="rect" href="http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/the-subconscious-mind-of-the-consumer-and-how-to-reach-it" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/the-subconscious-mind-of-the-consumer-and-how-to-reach-it</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/><a shape="rect" href="https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/8/8/863/1630444/Neural-reactivation-links-unconscious-thought-to" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/8/8/863/1630444/Neural-reactivation-links-unconscious-thought-to</span></a><br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">It processes info and comes to conclusions of its own:</span></p><p><a shape="rect" href="http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150217-how-smart-is-your-subconscious" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150217-how-smart-is-your-subconscious</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">It Records Everything</span></p><br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Habit-Based - Habituation</span></p><br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Familiarity Effect</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">In 1980, Zajonc proposed the affective primacy hypothesis, which hypothesizes that</span><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affect_%28psychology%29" style="text-decoration: none;"> <span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">affective reactions</span></a><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> (i.e. liking) can be "elicited with minimal stimulus input". Through mere-exposure experiments, Zajonc sought to provide evidence for the affective-primacy hypothesis, namely, that affective judgments are made without prior cognitive processes. Zajonc tested this hypothesis by presenting repeated stimuli to participants at suboptimal thresholds such that they did not show conscious awareness or recognition of the repeated stimuli (when asked whether they had seen the image, responses at chance level), but continued to show affective bias towards the repeatedly exposed stimuli. Zajonc compared results from primes exposed longer which allowed for conscious awareness to stimuli shown briefly such that participants did not show conscious awareness. He found that the primes shown more briefly and not recognized prompted faster responses for liking as compared to primes shown at conscious levels.</span><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect#cite_note-Murphy.2C_S._T._1993-5" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 6.6pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">[5]</span></a><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect#cite_note-zajonc_1980-6" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 6.6pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">[6]</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/><h3><b><span style="font-size: 13pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Goetzinger (1968)</span></b></h3><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Charles Goetzinger conducted an experiment using the mere-exposure effect on his class at</span><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oregon_State_University" style="text-decoration: none;"> <span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">Oregon State University</span></a><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">. Goetzinger had a student come to class in a large black bag with only his feet visible. The black bag sat on a table in the back of the classroom. Goetzinger's experiment was to observe if the students would treat the black bag in accordance to Zajonc's mere-exposure effect. His hypothesis was confirmed. The students in the class first treated the black bag with hostility, which over time turned into curiosity, and eventually friendship.</span><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect#cite_note-zajonc_1968-4" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 6.6pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">[4]</span></a><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> This experiment confirms Zajonc's mere-exposure effect, by simply presenting the black bag over and over again to the students their attitudes were changed, or as Zajonc states "mere repeated exposure of the individual to a stimulus is a sufficient condition for the enhancement of his attitude toward it".</span><a shape="rect" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect#cite_note-zajonc_1968-4" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="font-size: 6.6pt; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">[4]</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Always Awake - always working</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Neuroscientists have shown that the conscious mind provides 5% or less of our cognitive (conscious) activity during the day – and 5% they say is for the more aware people, many people operate at just 1% consciousness. Dr Lipton also says that the unconscious mind operates at 40 million bits of data per second, whereas the conscious mind processes at only 40 bits per second. </span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Is Different than the Conscious Mind - the Split</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">It’s a Massive Multi-Tasker</span></p><br clear="none"/></div>
Elements of an Effective Life Values Inventoryhttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/elements-of-an-effective-life-values-inventory2017-03-30T20:14:17.233000Z2017-01-30T19:23:02ZiNLP Center<div><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"><br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Life Values Quotes<br clear="none"/></span></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. – from Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring<br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Me, I still believe in paradise. But now at least I know it’s not some place you can look for because it’s not where you go. It’s how you feel for a moment in your life when you’re a part of something and if you find that moment, it lasts forever. – from The Beach<br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><br clear="none"/></p><div style="position: absolute; left: -99999px;"><em>Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values. Ayn Rand<br clear="none"/>Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/search_results.html?q=values&pg=2</em></div><em>Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values. Ayn Rand<br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/></em><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. Brian Tracy<br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values. Joshua L. Liebman<br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier. Roy E. Disney<br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/>It's a rare moment when we take a break from the tribulations of the daily rat race to reflect on assumptions and values that we casually accept as gospel. Graydon Carter<br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><br clear="none"/></p><div style="position: absolute; left: -99999px;">Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values. Ayn Rand<br clear="none"/>Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/search_results.html?q=values&pg=2</div>
<div style="position: absolute; left: -99999px;">Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values. Ayn Rand<br clear="none"/>Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/search_results.html?q=values&pg=2</div><br clear="none"/><p><strong><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Possible Titles<br clear="none"/></span></strong></p><p><a shape="rect" href="http://inlpcenter.org/life-values-inventory"><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">How to do a Life Values Inventory the Right Way</span></em></a><br clear="none"/></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Here's Why you Need to Do a Life Values Inventory to Make your Life Work Right<br clear="none"/></span></em></p><p><strong><em><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Intros<br clear="none"/></span></em></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Have you ever had one of those precious moments when you're keenly aware that everything is right with your world? <br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"><br clear="none"/></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">That moment - everything is right with your world - make that happen regularly - in those moments your life values are being fulfilled. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">This webinar will examine the elements of an effective life values inventory.</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">What are life values?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Why should people learn them?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">How to do an effective life values assessment.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">How to use life values in coaching.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">How to diagnose life value related issues are all on the agenda.</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">This webinar is a step toward creating a fuller module on the topic to be added to the iNLP Life Coaching Certification course.</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">What are life values? </span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Nominalizations</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Why It’s Important to do a Life Values Inventory</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Fulfillment - conscious fulfillment as opposed to haphazard fulfillment - with examples</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Problem with traditional methods - conscious values- that you think you value as opposed to what you actually value.</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Two ways - have an outsider observe your decisions and behavior objectively</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Get at the unconscious mind</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 24px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Major Problems a Life Values Inventory Solves</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Goal setting</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Decisions</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Motivation </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 11pt; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Boundaries</span></p><br clear="none"/></div>Making Behaviors Automatic - Forming New Habits with NLPhttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/making-behaviors-automatic-forming-new-habits-with-nlp2017-01-19T23:40:30.481000Z2017-01-19T22:06:28ZiNLP Center<div><span style="color: #993366;">Webinar Notes </span><br clear="none"/></div>
<div><span style="color: #993366;">1/19/17 iNLP Center Student Webinar on Creating Habits</span><br clear="none"/></div>
<div><span style="color: #993366;">NLP Application Training: <em>Applied NLP</em></span><br clear="none"/></div>
<div><span style="color: #993366;"><em>NLP Trainer: Mike Bundrant<br clear="none"/></em></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><strong><span style="color: #333399;">Assuming a <em>congruent</em> goal, you now want to establish specific supporting behaviors as part of a routine (habits) that will move you forward.<br clear="none"/></span></strong></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 18px;">What happens if the goal is not congruent?</span> <br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">If a goal is not congruent, then you are conflicted in your desire to achieve it. <a shape="rect" href="http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2017/01/inner-conflict/" target="_blank">Inner conflict</a> is a leading cause of self-sabotage. Before attempting to establish new habits, be sure you are congruent in your desire to achieve the outcome of those habits. <br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><span style="font-size: 18px;">How do you know if you are conflicted?</span><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• You feel torn<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• You criticize yourself (inner voice) around this goal:<br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"> <em> I can't do it</em><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><em><span style="font-size: 14px;"> It's pointless<br clear="none"/></span></em></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><em> People will laugh at me</em><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;"><em>• </em>Even though you are full capable, you are not following through on simple tasks<br clear="none"/><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">Any and all of the above suggests 'a part of you is positioned against the goal - or resistant. This should be addressed as a priority. Inner conflict is the most overlooked element of personal development.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">So we have a <span style="color: #000080;"><strong>congruent goal</strong></span> and want to set up some supporting habits to that will take us there. How do we set such habits and make new behaviors an automatic part of our daily routine?<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;"><span style="font-size: 24px;">How to Make Self-Motivation Easy</span><br clear="none"/></span></div>
<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">NLP has several ways to achieve goals, <a shape="rect" href="http://mindset.tips/2017/01/19/overcoming-obstacles-with-nlp-vak/">overcome obstacles and create motivation</a>. But let's look at Stanford Researcher Dr. BJ Fogg's behavior/motivation model. It's infused with practical NLP concepts.<br clear="none"/></span></div>
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<div><em>Source: BJ Fogg/Tiny Habits</em><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 24px;">The model shows that:</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 18px;">I. Doing any task requires three things: </span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size: 14px;">• The ability to do it </span></div>
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<div><em>If you chunk down tasks into simple, easy (too easy) pieces, it is much easier to get started because less motivation is required. For incredibly simple, easy task, minimal motivation is required. This has direct implications for creating new habits, as getting started is most of the battle.</em><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><em>Each morning after my feet hit the floor, I will immediately sit in my meditation chair.</em><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><em>After I set down my toothbrush, I will immediately floss one tooth.</em><br clear="none"/></div>
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<div><em>***The Fogg Behavior Model is the property of BJ Fogg and Tiny Habits. Mike Bundrant is a certified Tiny Habits coach. <br clear="none"/></em></div>
<div><em>Further information about Tiny Habits can be had at <a shape="rect" href="http://TinyHabits.com">TinyHabits.com</a><br clear="none"/></em></div>
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Identifying Obstacles - NLP Webinarhttps://nlptraining.postach.io/post/overcoming-obstacles-nlp-webinar2017-01-17T01:03:04.112000Z2017-01-12T18:35:59ZiNLP Center<div><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">NLP Webinar January 12-13, 2017</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">iNLP Student Only Webinar by Mike Bundrant</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Finding the right obstacle to your goals.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Finding the right obstacles to goals, from an NLP perspective, is to address the question: </span><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">What stops you?</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> Outcome Specification module in</span><a shape="rect" style="text-decoration: none;" href="http://inlpcenter.org/available-nlp-programs/nlp-practitioner-certification-online/" target="_blank"> <span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">iNLP practitioner training</span></a><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> - module 9.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">In NLP terms, the right obstacle will be <em>sensory-based</em>. In other words, understandable in visual, auditory and/or kinesthetic terms.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">The NLP obstacles process looks like:</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">1. What's your goal?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">2.What stops you from achieving this goal? (identify obstacle)</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">3. Detect VAK activity.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">4. Use NLP interventions to work with VAK sensory-based representations of obstacles.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">The obstacles to overcome are actually </span><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">internal representations (VAK)</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">If the obstacles are presented at </span><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">external</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> obstacles, then we still move to detect the internal representations of the external obstacles.</span></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Examples of Overcoming Obstacles initially presented as external obstacles</span></em></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Obstacles - external to internal transformation example #1</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Client says:</span><em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> My wife says no when I tell her I want to do x.</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Wife represented as external obstacle</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Response to initiate overcoming obstacle - begin the with the client's internal representation of external obstacle (VAK).</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Ask: When you think of your wife, what do you see, hear or feel on the inside?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Get inner VAK representation - image, sound and accompanying feelings</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Intervention possibilities:</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Explore submodality shifts that may be empowering or resource-building</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Consider using New Behavior Generator for rehearsing better communication patterns</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Look for</span><a shape="rect" style="text-decoration: none;" href="http://inlpcenter.org/psychological-attachments" target="_blank"><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;"> psychological attachments</span></a><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> (</span><a shape="rect" style="text-decoration: none;" href="http://inlpcenter.org/aha-solution/" target="_blank"><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">AHA Solution</span></a><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">) to be aware of and begin working on.</span></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 14.6667px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Rejection attachment: behaving or communicating in a way that invites rejection?</span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 14.6667px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Control attachment: handing over too much power to wife - acting helpless?</span></em></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 14.6667px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Deprivation attachment: not really communicating what you need or giving up too soon?</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Use perceptual positions to explore multiple angles on the relationship and to dissociate.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">And so on - and on and on and on:) Tons of options for an NLP practitioner.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Transforming external obstacles into internal obstacles example #2</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Client says: </span><em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">My life is too hectic to devote any time to (what I want).</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Response to initiate overcoming obstacle - begin the with the client's internal representation of external obstacle (VAK).</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Ask: </span><em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">When you think of your hectic life, what do you see, hear or feel on the inside?</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Get specific image, sounds and accompanying feelings of hectic life.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Intervention possibilities:</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Submodality shifts to clarify and shrink image to reduce overwhelm.</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Chunk life down into 'areas of life' to reduce overwhelm</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Explore life metaphor</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Consider psychological attachments, like the Control attachment (life controls me)</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Tame DMN protocol with problem (in circle) 'life is hectic'</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">And so on and on!</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Other considerations</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; text-decoration: none;">Ecology</span></strong></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Should</span></em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;"> the obstacle be overcome? Or is it a legitimate limitation that the client needs to accept?</span></p><p><em><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">What would happen if...</span></em></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">A client becomes more assertive, less helpless, more empowered in specific relationships?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">A client does, in fact, reach the goal?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">How might the resources accessed be misused or applied un-ecologically?</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Etc...</span></p><br clear="none"/><p><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #000000; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none;">Mike Bundrant</span></p><p><a shape="rect" style="text-decoration: none;" href="http://inlpcenter.org" target="_blank"><span style="font-size: 14.666666666666666px; font-family: Arial; color: #1155cc; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline;">iNLP Center</span></a><br clear="none"/></p><br clear="none"/></div>